When should I ask for help to support my friend?

If

  • Your friend’s difficulties are really affecting their day to day life. E.g
  • Your friend talks about hurting themselves or that they can’t see the point in living
  • Your friend is spending more & more time alone and not doing things they enjoy
  • Your friend has been struggling for some time and they do not feel hopeful about things changing
  • Your friend seems to have a very difficult or worrying relationship with a parent
  • Your friend is being very risky in their behaviour
  • Your friend has ever attempted suicide
  • Your friend is struggling to talk about things but you can see they are isolated or being risky in their behaviour
  • If they are being abused by someone

Then

You need to
tell an Adult

Tell them your concerns.
Tell them who your friend is.
Check it out with Childline or the The Samaritans.

If

  • Your friend is having problems but they still do things they enjoy
  • Your friend is beginning to see solutions and is trying certain things to help them feel better
  • They are coping with every day life

Then

Keep listening
Help your friend to think things through

Encourage them to talk to an adult. You could check out any concerns you have adult but can choose whether to tell them who your friend is or not

If

  • You enjoy having conversations with your friend and you support each other
  • Your friend has a few worries but they are doing well in other areas and they are having a go at sorting out the things that worry them other

Then

Carry on being
a good friend